Have you ever listened to someone define anxiety in just such a way that would modify it fully?
I won't forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone nervously looking at him "Now lots of things are going to change in your life, and this can bring up some hysteria, but just think of anxiety as new things happening. "
Woah.
New things going down? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we actually get down to define anxiety in a strict sense, it's a honest feeling of worry or uneasiness about a situation that truly has a modest amount of doubt surrounding it. What could occur next? What will the end result be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have lately coined.
What's the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each of us are supplied with a interesting story throughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be happy when that occurs. It will all turn out when I arrive there. " The problem is, we are rowing towards this island that does not exist. We think it's there, but it is one of the most beautifully made mirages we have ever seen. It's really sexy. It's seductive. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's real danger in this type of thinking meanging that anxiety can be our best indicator that we are actually caught in the activity of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative side effects as living during the past. Everyone knows what it is actually like to need to flee our past, but I'm going to hang out on a limb to venture to say that we should avoid living in the future just as much. We will get stuck in some place, a particularly doubtful place, that honestly is beyond control. Should you set goals and have a dream for what you desire out of your life? Definitely. But the danger is building the bedrock of your happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I can make you about this life is that it will change. You can't go to the past, the present is subject to being changed at any moment and the future is to be determined.
So what are we actually able to do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The uncertain places in your life are occasions to have nothing short than magic knock your socks off. Do you truly know what is going to occur? Absolutely not. Will you attempt to project as much as is possible? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start coming back to the present time, constantly because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to fully be here. Here really is a great spot to be. Start actually seeing what is occurring around you rather than spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn't right here and now.
So all stress truly is, when it boils down to it, is new things taking place. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Really spend a little bit of time to truly feel the chaos in your stomach and then take a second to start to appreciate why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's happening now that's new?" When you start to do that, well, things become more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiety begins to leave altogether.
It is all about how we define anxiety in the first instance.
I won't forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone nervously looking at him "Now lots of things are going to change in your life, and this can bring up some hysteria, but just think of anxiety as new things happening. "
Woah.
New things going down? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we actually get down to define anxiety in a strict sense, it's a honest feeling of worry or uneasiness about a situation that truly has a modest amount of doubt surrounding it. What could occur next? What will the end result be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have lately coined.
What's the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each of us are supplied with a interesting story throughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be happy when that occurs. It will all turn out when I arrive there. " The problem is, we are rowing towards this island that does not exist. We think it's there, but it is one of the most beautifully made mirages we have ever seen. It's really sexy. It's seductive. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's real danger in this type of thinking meanging that anxiety can be our best indicator that we are actually caught in the activity of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative side effects as living during the past. Everyone knows what it is actually like to need to flee our past, but I'm going to hang out on a limb to venture to say that we should avoid living in the future just as much. We will get stuck in some place, a particularly doubtful place, that honestly is beyond control. Should you set goals and have a dream for what you desire out of your life? Definitely. But the danger is building the bedrock of your happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I can make you about this life is that it will change. You can't go to the past, the present is subject to being changed at any moment and the future is to be determined.
So what are we actually able to do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The uncertain places in your life are occasions to have nothing short than magic knock your socks off. Do you truly know what is going to occur? Absolutely not. Will you attempt to project as much as is possible? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start coming back to the present time, constantly because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to fully be here. Here really is a great spot to be. Start actually seeing what is occurring around you rather than spending too much time distracting yourself from everything that isn't right here and now.
So all stress truly is, when it boils down to it, is new things taking place. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Really spend a little bit of time to truly feel the chaos in your stomach and then take a second to start to appreciate why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's happening now that's new?" When you start to do that, well, things become more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiety begins to leave altogether.
It is all about how we define anxiety in the first instance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author and creator of The Words Of Encouragement a website dedicated to bringing encouraging words to all those who are in need of some help, whether that ranges from helping people define anxiety to providing them with strong powerful quotes about life so they can continue to chase their dreams.
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